Feelings & Togetherness
What can make waiting easier?
Puschel wants a garden apple, but it needs more time.
The short answer
Waiting may be easier when you know what you are waiting for and what you can do meanwhile. A small activity or support may help. Impatience does not make you bad; patience develops gradually.
An imagined Wusel scene
Puschel and Flauschi investigate
Beneath an apple tree, Puschel looks at an apple that is not yet ripe. He does not reach for it.
Puschel“I want it now!” Flauschi“We will get help with picking. This apple needs more time.”
Puschel“Will you tell me when we can look again?” Flauschi“We can ask together about a suitable time.”
Meanwhile Puschel looks for yellow flowers in the grass. Puschel“I can discover something else while the apple stays on the tree.”
He still feels a little impatient. Flauschi“You can say so. Waiting does not have to become easy suddenly.”
Try explaining it
This question is about a fictional situation and considerate actions, not about which feelings you should have.
What might help an impatient character wait?
Choose a), b) or c), then explain your choice.
- a)Explain the plan and offer a small activity.
- b)Insult them for their feeling.
- c)Forbid them from asking for help.
Show the explanation
Correct: a): Explain the plan and offer a small activity.
Waiting may be easier when you know what you are waiting for and what you can do meanwhile. A small activity or support may help. Impatience does not make you bad; patience develops gradually.
Questions to think about
Puschel becomes restless while waiting. What kind agreement could help?
Show conversation idea
For example, a clear order and a promise to tell him when it is his turn. Support or a suitable activity are other possibilities.
What could Puschel say if he needs help while waiting?
Show conversation idea
For example: “This feels hard. Can you help me?” You can choose a different suitable phrase.
Word help
- self-regulation
- Noticing feelings and actions and learning ways to manage them, with support when needed.
Explore in more detail
Here you will find longer explanations and further details. You can explore them together.
Understand step by step
What does this mean in everyday life?
Examples are possible situations. You need not feel a particular emotion or share a personal story.
Waiting has a reason
A game has one playing piece. You wait while another child takes a turn, which may be frustrating.
A plan makes time clearer
Show the order or agree when to swap. A suitable quiet activity may ease waiting.
Waiting is not always required
Tell an adult about pain, danger or urgent needs. Patience never means staying silent in every situation.
The key points again
Discovery 1
Waiting can bring impatience or anger. Managing feelings and behaviour is called self-regulation. For example, you learn to notice anger and ask for help instead of hitting. Children develop it gradually and need support.
Source: [1]
Discovery 2
A manageable agreement can help, such as: your turn first, then mine. A calm activity while waiting is one option. The same suggestion does not help every child equally.
Discovery 3
Patience does not mean waiting silently in danger or serious discomfort. You can tell an adult what you need. These conversation ideas are invitations, not a test of your feelings.
Source: [2]