Feelings & Togetherness
What might help when I feel angry?
A fallen block tower makes Puschel very upset.
The short answer
Space, a pause and words may help with anger. What works varies. Feeling angry is allowed; hurting someone is not a solution. A trusted adult can help with calming down and sorting things out.
An imagined Wusel scene
Puschel and Flauschi investigate
Puschel’s tower falls. Puschel“I spent so long building that!” His paws tighten.
Flauschi stays seated at a distance. Flauschi“You are really angry. Shall we leave the blocks for now?”
Puschel“Yes. I do not want to build again yet.” He rests his paws on his knees.
Flauschi“Would you like quiet or help?” Puschel“Quiet first. Perhaps a wider base for the tower later.”
The anger does not have to disappear immediately. They wait. When Puschel is ready, they look for a new beginning together.
Try explaining it
This question is about a fictional situation and considerate actions, not about which feelings you should have.
Which action helps without hurting someone?
Choose a), b) or c), then explain your choice.
- a)Treat anger as permission to hurt someone.
- b)Take space and seek support.
- c)Hit the other person.
Show the explanation
Correct: b): Take space and seek support.
Space, a pause and words may help with anger. What works varies. Feeling angry is allowed; hurting someone is not a solution. A trusted adult can help with calming down and sorting things out.
Questions to think about
What could Puschel say instead of hitting somebody?
Show conversation idea
For example: “I am angry. I need space.” An adult can help find the words.
What safe pause might suit you?
Show conversation idea
Perhaps space, sitting quietly or asking for help. No solution works instantly for everybody.
Explore in more detail
Here you will find longer explanations and further details. You can explore them together.
Understand step by step
What does this mean in everyday life?
Examples are possible situations. You need not feel a particular emotion or share a personal story.
An event may upset you
Someone knocks your tower over. You may feel hot, tense or want to shout; others notice anger differently.
Separate feeling and action
Anger is allowed. Hitting or dangerous throwing can still hurt. Space or a pause may help until words are possible.
Discuss the cause later
Explain what upset you and ask for rebuilding or resolving help. An adult supports you if needed; anger need not instantly disappear.
The key points again
Discovery 1
Anger is a feeling. Feeling angry and hurting someone are not the same thing.
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Discovery 2
A pause, some space and words can help with anger. Different things help different people.
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Discovery 3
Do not hit, threaten or throw things dangerously. Adults help when managing alone is difficult.
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