Feelings & Togetherness
What can I do if someone ignores my no?
Someone ignores a no. The Wusels talk about boundaries and finding support.
The short answer
If someone ignores your no to an unwanted touch, it is not your fault. Move away if possible and get a trusted adult. If they do not help, keep seeking help. You do not have to solve it alone.
An imagined Wusel scene
Puschel and Flauschi investigate
Flauschi says stop during a game, but someone carries on. Puschel goes with her to Lumi instead of negotiating another game rule. Lumi listens and helps. Flauschi does not have to prove her no was important enough.
Try explaining it
This question is about a fictional situation and considerate actions, not about which feelings you should have.
What can help if someone keeps bothering a character despite their no?
Choose a), b) or c), then explain your choice.
- a)Blame the affected character.
- b)Respect the no only after a perfect explanation.
- c)Move away if possible and seek adult help.
Show the explanation
Correct: c): Move away if possible and seek adult help.
If someone ignores your no to an unwanted touch, it is not your fault. Move away if possible and get a trusted adult. If they do not help, keep seeking help. You do not have to solve it alone.
Think about it, if you like
You can use the fictional situation; you do not have to share personal experiences.
What can a character do if their no is ignored?
One possible idea
Move away if possible and seek a trusted adult's help; ask others if needed. It is not the affected person's fault. You do not have to tell a personal story.
Explore in more detail
Here you will find longer explanations and further details. You can explore them together.
Understand step by step
What does this mean in everyday life?
Examples are possible situations. You need not feel a particular emotion or share a personal story.
Recognise the violation
You do not want touch and someone continues. Your boundary matters even if they call it joking.
Seek safety and help
If possible, move away and get a safe adult. You need not convince or bravely confront the person alone.
More help remains allowed
Tell another safe person if unheard. Even without a loud no, violating your boundary is not your fault.
References for this explanation: [1]
The key points again
Discovery 1
A no to unwanted touch matters even if someone else is disappointed.
Source: [1]
Discovery 2
If possible, move away and seek a trusted adult. You do not have to handle an unsafe situation alone.
Source: [1]
Discovery 3
If the first person does not help, seek someone else. It is not your fault if a boundary is ignored.
Source: [1]